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Fatherhood Rocks

Fathers day in US just happened last Sunday the 16th, and I was thinking, what it means for me to be a father. Well, I think I have to start from the beginning.

For years I have been “looking” for something else, that I did not know what.  I remember clearly during my night time walks with my dog (Bolt) and I would look to the sky and think what is missing, and I could not quite figure it out. Until one day…

It was right around Christmas time, my bike was broken and I went to a friends/client house to borrow a bike so I could train. When I got to his house and I saw the kids playing and having fun. That was my ah-ha, the search was over. Fatherhood is what I was searching for all this time.iron lulu

After Luke was born was the first time I didn’t feel alone. The very first time I felt complete. Becoming a Dad was like completing a puzzle that started long ago when I met my wife. This is something very hard to explain, but super easy to FEEL. lulu

The other day I heard “fatherhood is being responsible for a life that you have no control of it”. Therefore, I can say that fatherhood is one of the biggest blessings you can have in life, and with big blessings comes big responsibilities. I believe our goal as fathers is to accept our kids exactly how they are and to empower  them so they can navigate thru their life journey the best way possible.

Fatherhood made me see life in a whole different way. Sometimes I ask people, if your life was a movie, what would be the soundtrack? For me, the answer will be rock and roll. Because rock and roll pumps me up, and makes me feel alive, happy and vibrant. That is why I say, over and over again, fatherhood rocks and nothing else matters (thanks Metallica).

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Rock on!

Richard Wygand – A Dad on a mission!

 

I am not an Ironman, I became one

When people see my tattoo, or when they find out that I did 18 ironmans, I always get the same reaction: “oh but you are an ironman!”. Does not matter what I am doing, the minute the word ironman comes up people automatically think that you are super strong or something like that. However, the reality is different.

chubbyLet me explain. When I decided to follow my dream and become a pro athlete, I was literally 260 pounds, smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day, drinking a 6 pack every night, depressed, and working on a job that I hated (I was a manager at Wendy’s, by the way don’t ever eat there LOL). All I had was a dream, and I did not even knew where to start.

My first Ironman sucked. Everything went wrong, I threw up 12 times in almost 14 hours of racing but I crossed the finish line, and instead of putting the head down I used my “failure” to motivate me and embrace the challenge. I end up completing 18 ironmans including winning the hits triathlon 140.6 series in Naples right before Luke was born. Naples.png

During my ironman training and racing years I learned how to face my demons (limitations). Facing my demons, was the only way I could overcome them and become the athlete I was wanted to be. The same can be applied to life.

Life, for me, is a sequence of ironmans (like a championship), each phase of your life is a different race that you are running with different challenges. We must embrace the challenge because they are part of who we are. I always say, “its not about waiting to the storm to pass, neither about learning how to dance in the rain. Life is about realizing that you are the storm.”

I never had a natural talent, neither was I an athlete as a kid. However, I embraced my challenges, dedicated myself and became an ironman. So embrace your challenges/crisis, be grateful because they are here to make an Ironman.

Feel Good,

Richard Wygand – A Dad on a mission!

Community effort

Yesterday as I was working from home building the program of the kids camp that I am running this summer, when I got the news of another school shooting. This is becoming too normal, and too often, but how can we help? what kids really need nowadays?

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I have coached and worked with kids on and off for awhile. I thought many kids how to swim, bike and run. Now, I am working with after school program and I got to experience many different things in short period of time.

I am not in a position to judge parenting, and I will never be. However, I notice a three important things:

  1. Help and attention! Kids are screaming for help and attention. Sounds crazy, because  we thing kids have everything. I mean things that were really hard to get back then now became so easy, but they are still screaming for help. So we are definitely missing something here.
  2. Food! This for me was the most impressive things that I ever seen in my life. After kids have their typical snack or school lunch (loaded with sugar and chemicals) their behavior gets at least 90% worst. It’s a reality and is out of control.
  3. Trust! Kids are starting to not trust adults anymore.  Can we blame them when we are destroying the environment around us? I don’t think so.

When I became a father I learned 2 things super quick. The #1 was when my son was born and he was in respiratory distress. I came to him and said, “Daddy is here” and he grabbed my finger. That moment he knew that he could trust us, he knew we were there for him. Think about it, this was his first thing he saw in this world, and I believe that was the moment he realized “I am not alone”. You can see how important it is to a kid to trust an adult.

The second part is acceptance. When we were pregnant people were telling us that he would be a great triathlete because of that fact my wife and I were good athletes. Our answer was always the same: He is going to be whatever the hell he wants. I am glad that we always thought that way, because Luke was born with a rare muscle condition called nemaline myopathy. So, thinking this way made a lot easier to accept his physical challenge. And if I am pretty honest here, hearing the diagnose was not that hard, because the minute I decided to become a father I automatically accepted him the way he is. Like I heard the other day, to be a father is to be responsible for a life that you have no control of it. This is so true, because I have no control on who he is, I can only accept him with love and provide him with all the necessary tools to overcome his life challenges. Please download the kids book I wrote for me son here. It’s FREE!

I do not have a solution for this obviously, but I can say one thing: Getting out of this mess it will require a community effort. I mean, we are our environment, and the change must come from within, from how we see things. For example, start accepting our differences can be a great place to start.

One thing I do often with my son is talk to him. Luke is not even 3 years old and due to his muscle weakness he does not talk yet, however, I explain him everything. I mean every surgery, every procedure, everything that he had to go thru I talked and explained to him, and guess what? It worked, every time I explained to him what was going on he was way calmer.

Now, we are what we eat. Honestly, sound cliche but we are, and what we feed kids make a HUGE difference. I see it every single day. Don’t believe me? Go work in the school the week before valentines day and the week after and compare. Keep in mind that the week before they are still eating lots of sugar and chemicals, but on valentines week the amount is increased tremendous. The behavior during the valentines week is completely insane. So, changing our dietary habits to real food is critical. Please take some time to watch the documentary called Magic Pill. 

Just to finish my food for thought, I grew up Rio de Janeiro Brazil, which you may know is not the safest place in the world. In fact, I had a gun pointed to my head for over 2 hours at one time. However, when I was in my school I never worried about someone coming in and shooting us, especially a classmate. I few weeks ago, 20 years after I graduated from high school, I am preparing my son to go to PRE SCHOOL, I repeat PRE SCHOOL, and they told me at that they already  do drills to protect from shooting. I must say, this is not the world I imagine be living at 38 years old. This is not normal and is up to us to change something. Government and new policies might help but the change must come from within….

With Gratitude,

Richard Wygand – A Dad on a mission!

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Fatherhood Rocks- Episode 1.

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-q276p-ad87d6

Fatherhood rocks Episode 1 is finally here. For the first episode I had a pleasure to talk to Ishan, and his journey thru fatherhood, as Ishan explains: “He was diagnosed with pulmonary stenosis. And He had some growth complications during the last few weeks of our pregnancy and later we learned that everything was connected. I’m a 100% hands on dad. I was initially devastated, and questioning why did it happen to my child? But then I saw inspiring stories of dads like yourself. It has been an emotional battle but I am a fighter, and a believer.” Check it out the full story in this inspiring story. 

Fatherhood Rocks!

A Dad on a mission!

 

Fatherhood Rocks- Episode 1.

Source: Fatherhood Rocks- Episode 1.

Fatherhood rocks Episode 1 is finally here. For the first episode I had a pleasure to talk to Ishan, and his journey thru fatherhood, as Ishan explains: “He was diagnosed with pulmonary stenosis. And He had some growth complications during the last few weeks of our pregnancy and later we learned that everything was connected. I’m a 100% hands on dad. I was initially devastated, and questioning why did it happen to my child? But then I saw inspiring stories of dads like yourself. It has been an emotional battle but I am a fighter, and a believer.” Check it out the full story in this inspiring story.

Fatherhood Rocks!

A Dad on a mission!

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